SO I KNOW IT’S BEEN AWHILE SINCE I’VE BLOGGED.
And to be honest, I didn’t think I would blog again. But. I don’t bleed, I write. So, I’m writing on an issue that is so very near and dear to my heart and my identity.
Tonight, I instagrammed a picture that had this written inside of it…
“There’s a lot of unspoken pressure to keep liking the things you used to like and to keep dressing the way you’ve always dressed and to never question what you believe in and basically “be yourself” has slowly morphed into “be what everyone knows you as” but trust me when I say if you just give it up and simply make decisions and take actions based purely on what would make you happy, you’ll gain a very comforting sense of self peace.”
I FEEL SO STRONGLY ABOUT THIS. I FEEL SO, SO, SO STRONGLY ABOUT THIS.
Guys, listen up. I know I come across as being confident and I know I come across as being outgoing and I know people think I’m eccentric or weird or different or not mainstream or God knows whatever people say about me. I know all of that. And I take it all (most of the time with a grain of salt), and listen to them, thank them, and don’t factor it in to who I am.
My brother calls me weird and a hipster all of the time. My mom has no words to describe me but unique. Peers have told me, and their other peers, that I’m fake, too open, too weird, too outgoing, too loud, too passive, too sarcastic, too MUCH, God, people have said these things to my face and behind my back. Over the years, I’ve had my fair share of gossip said about me. People have made fun of me for doing every little thing in the book and to this day, people still do. Usually days don’t go by where I don’t hear something someone’s said about me that was meant to be negative or condescending or offensive. I’m not friends with the same people I’ve always been friends with, I’m not the same human I’ve always been. Over the years, I’ve gone through quite a lot of changes and in NO way am I the same human I was in the sixth grade. Or the eighth grade. Or the tenth. Or last month.
AND WHO ARE YOU ALL TO TRY TO DEFINE ME!? I am nothing that you all say that I am. I am whoever I want to be. I am whatever I want to be in any given moment on any given day in any given fashion. Just because someone says I am something, or says that “I’m not cool enough to do that,” or that something is “very unlike me” does not mean that I should be stopped.
Yo, girls especially, because we all know how much girls gossip, listen to me. You are whatever you want to be. It does not matter if people tell you it’s not like you to act that way, or say that, or dress like that, or hang out with those people. If those people are so concerned with trying to keep you in this little square mold they have built for you, what does it say about them?
It says they can’t adapt to change. It says they are not strong enough people in their own identity to accept that you’re maturing and blossoming into the wonderful human being you were meant to be.
So you wake up tomorrow, and you want to dye your hair black. Or you want to start really trying in school and start making good grades. Or you want to sit with a totally new group of people at lunch. DO IT. Sure, you’re going to have some backlash and people are going to ask you “why you’re acting weird” or “what you’re doing…” look at them, smile, and tell them YOU’RE DOING YOU. You are doing whatever you can in each and every moment to bring you closer to an inner sense of happiness. And you know what? You do that, and people will admire you. The backlash will get fewer and their voices will get quieter and people will see you setting this example, and think, hey, I can be whoever I want to be too.
Please, please, please do not let other people’s words that come from their own insecurities define who you are as an individual. IT IS OKAY TO CHANGE WHAT YOU LIKE TO DO, AND SAY, AND ACT, AND WEAR. IT IS OKAY.
That is all.
It felt nice to write 🙂